Monday, May 28, 2012
I've been hearing the everything will change line ever since we fell pregnant.
It's been drilled into my brain so many times, but every single time I hear it I think to myself but I don't want everything to change.
I would like to think that not everything does change and when it does it will just happen and it won't be a case of "oh I miss my old life".
I'm aware that there will be moments where the change is scary or overwhelming but isn't that what life is like anyway, constantly changing?
Someone said to me "you won't be able to go out for expensive dinners all the time" it was one of those days where I was sick of hearing it. So I stated the facts back, we don't go out for fancy dinners "all the time", rarely in fact. Maybe once every 6 months - if that.
I don't really see why that should have to change?
We've got family members keen to babysit, why not have a date night together when and if it's viable?
I've heard "you will never sleep" well, I do shift work and sleep is a rare thing there anyway. Yes, it sucks but I cope and yes there will be illness and teething and it's different but I'm sure I will get some form of sleep.
I don't want our world to change to the extent that it's a misery, I want it to change for good, happy reasons.
The best laid plans of mice and men can go awry but that doesn't mean the pieces can't fall into place some of the time.
This everything changes line and many, many other mummy classics are one of the reasons why I won't go onto "mummy forums" or read too much literature. My mum coped without the bombardment of opinions and judgement, so did my grandma, why can't I?
There has already been some judgment with how I've coped with pregnancy symptoms, yes, I've taken medication as recommended by my obstetrician to alleviate awful morning sickness, reflux and headaches.
Some staunch mothers have pretty much told me to "suck it up". But my theory is: why suffer in silence? Motherhood and pregnancy shouldn't be about being a martyr. Aren't we blessed to be living in the 21st century, in a country that allows us access to new technology and healthcare?
I guess today's little hoo haa is dedicated to all the to-be-pregnant ladies, pregnant ladies and mums.
Don't suck it up, don't suffer in silence and for heaven's sake don't think that your whole world HAS to change.
p.s I promise to return tomorrow with something much lighter.
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